“I’ll agree to the fisting, but I’d really like to claim your ass, Anastasia. But we’ll wait for that. Besides, it’s not something we can give into,” he smirks at me. “Your ass will need training.”
“Training?” I whisper.
“Oh yes. It’ll need careful preparation.”
So what exactly was Christian Grey talking about when he mentioned Ana’s ass needing training? Anal training is something a lot of submissives go through when they first enter the lifestyle. Some train their back side in order to be able to accept toys like butt plugs and dildos, while others like Ana look to be able to have anal intercourse with a penis with as minimal discomfort as possible.
The most basic tool needed by those going through anal training is proper lubrication. Which kind of lube you choose depends on a number of factors. If you are using silicone toys or latex condoms, you’ll need to use a water based lubricant as silicone lubes will break down the materials in those items. (For those looking to keep in the Fifty Shades theme – there is an official 50 Shades anal lube!) The up side to silicone lubricants is that they last longer and tend to be thicker. There are also anal lubricants that contain ingredients that help numb the anus, so discomfort is minimized – although this is not always the desired effect when doing anal training in a BDSM relationship!
The next part of anal training to take into account is what toys and tools you will be inserting. The key is to start very small and gradually work your way up as and when the trainee feels comfortable. Some couples bypass anal sex toys altogether and just use their fingers and penis to train the ass, while others use anal training kits that contain increasingly larger dildo sizes.
Some couples enjoy a cleaning ritual within their anal training. For some, this involved enemas and anal douches before starting the anal training session. While this isn’t completely necessary (unless you have recently suffered from any bowel issues like diarrhea or constipation), it does eliminate any concerns about possible messes.
It is also important to keep a few items for aftercare around. Going slow and steady with your anal training shouldn’t result in any tears or bleeding – just general discomfort after the fact. If you do find yourself with small tears after a particularly vigorous session, you can use baby wipes to clean the area to prevent any infection. Menstrual pads can be worn to prevent any blood from getting onto your clothes. This bleeding should not last more than an hour or, so. If it does, or you have an excessive amount of bleeding, you should consult a doctor.
The best advice when it comes to anal training – always maintain completely open communication to ensure that both the trainee and the trainer get the most out of the experience.
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